The art of the blow job can be a game-changer in the bedroom, but let’s be honest: without having our own penis we really don’t know what does and doesn’t feel good.
We’re here to turn those awkward moments into a performance he’ll never forget.
According to the guys we asked, here are the five biggest mistakes women make when giving blow jobs and what to do the next time you go down.
The Mistake: Skipping warm-ups and going right after it.
The Fix: Stoke the flames! Tease him a bit. Kiss and lick around his thighs, playfully (and softly) massage his testicles, while you’re down there, start telling him all the naughty things you want to do to him and how you can’t wait to have him in your mouth.
Slowly move your way up, only use your hot breath to let him that know you know where to go…but it’s not yet time. The more you tease, the more excited he’ll get. (Spoiler alert: this could actually speed things up, he’ll be ready to explode before you even start).
The Mistake: Not using your hands and relying solely on your mouth.
The Fix: Use your hands. We’re going to say it again for those in the back. USE YOUR HANDS! With one hand stroke the base of his shaft or massage his testicles while your mouth takes care of the rest. Add a little twist or use both hands for a double-pleasure experience. Don’t be afraid to mix up your techniques; use your mouth to make it a little extra tight as you go up and down. The thrill of the unknown will take him over the edge.
The Mistake: Closing your eyes the whole time. Eye contact is hot.
The Fix: Look up at him occasionally to see his reactions and let him see how much you’re enjoying yourself. It creates a connection that’s hotter than anything else you could be doing. He’ll be even more turned on knowing you are too!
The Mistake: Playing it too safe with light touches and minimal pressure.
The Fix: Don’t be afraid to apply a little more pressure. Use your lips and tongue firmly, and don’t forget the head. Sucking gently but firmly can drive him wild. If he likes it rougher, don’t be scared to give it to him (within reason, of course!). Communication is key – listen to his moans and adjust accordingly. Each man has different sensitivities, make sure you learn his body the same way you want him to learn yours. Don’t be afraid to ask him what feels good – again, he has the penis, you do not, tell him you want him to tell you EXACTLY what he wants.
The Mistake: Dry blow jobs.
The Fix: Get it wet. Doesn’t need to be sloppy, but something that allows for a smooth, slick glide. It not only helps with the gag reflex, but also helps reduce unnecessary friction while you’re tag teaming it with your mouth and hands. Of course, you can spit on it – but why? There are so many amazing, flavored lubes that taste amazing and make the entire moment more enjoyable!
Bonus tips the guys wanted us to include:
- Mix Up Your Techniques: Don’t stick to one move. Switch between licking, sucking, and stroking to keep things unpredictable.
- Don’t Forget the Testicles: Show them some love. Gently stroke, lick, or suck them to drive him wild both before and during.
- Take Breaks: Use breaks to kiss him or whisper something dirty in his ear. It’ll make the whole experience more tantalizing.
Bottom line: Have fun, enjoy the process, and don’t be afraid to get a little creative.
